I'm technically an adult but I really don't feel like one and i'm sort of just muddling through the stuff i have to do as best i can. I'm fat, bi, white and dfab genderqueer, and i like they/them pronouns please. If you are an oppressive buttface please go away. I try to tag for triggers but if I'm missing a tag that you need just let me know!! my vegan recipes and stuff blog is fatfeministfoodie and my witchy blog is firstafeministnowawitch.
that whole ‘friendly reminder that no one can determine your gender identity!’ thing stops when
- You are DFAB and appropriating trans women’s terminology / creating terms to indirectly describe yourself as a ‘trans woman’
- You are white (and/or outside of the specific culture in question) and appropriating specific non-white genders/gender terminology
because you do not get to identify in that way. you don’t get to perpetuate transmisogyny and racism in the process of exploring your own identity. you don’t get to dismiss any and all criticism of your transmisogynist, racist proposal as people ‘subscribing to truscum ideology’. you’re the one in the wrong
Transgender women who transition at an early age are beautiful!
Transgender woman who don’t transition until they’re in their 60’s are beautiful!
Transgender woman with broad shoulders, big hands and square jaws are beautiful!
Pre-transition transgender women who are just starting to experiment with makeup and woman’s clothing are beautiful!
You are beautiful! :D
"derp/herp derp" is ableist stop fucking using it, it is a term that originated with making fun of kids with down syndrome and being like "ha ha derp face:-P" and it has been used against disabled people for so long after that, please stop using it, get mad at people that do use it, please
Fun little trick I learned in therapy: validation. When someone is upset, don’t try to fix the problem, point out the cause, or tell them it could be worse. Just validate their emotions. Be like, ‘shit yeah man, that sucks. I’m sorry you’re going through that. I’m here for you.’ That’s literally all you have to do to make them feel better. Thank you and goodnight.